Choosing pleasure may sound like a simple decision, but in reality, it can be one of the most transformative and challenging choices you make in your life. It's a decision that requires you to prioritise your womanhood over your inner little girl, to embrace your power, and to break free from the constraints of people-pleasing and self-sacrifice. In this blog, we'll explore the journey of choosing pleasure and the profound impact it can have on your life. We'll also delve into the connection between pleasure and power, and why this choice is essential for women seeking to unleash their full potential.
The Uncomfortable Truth
About six months ago, a bold email was sent out, bearing the subject line: Your Martyr Mode is Anti-Pleasure (you can read the expanded blog here). The message was brutally honest, challenging the notion that many women embrace the idea that they must constantly sacrifice their own pleasure for the sake of others. The response to this email was surprising, an unprecedented number of unsubscribes. It became evident that speaking the truth about choosing pleasure and rejecting the martyr mode was not for the faint of heart.
Choosing womanhood over the comfort of staying in your little girl, prioritising pleasure over people-pleasing, and making decisions that empower you require courage. It's a path less travelled, but it's also a path that leads to greater fulfilment and authenticity. The question remains: Are you willing to make this choice?
The Power of Pleasure
Pleasure is often misunderstood or overlooked in our society. It's more than just a momentary indulgence, it's a portal to power. Without pleasure, power can become patriarchal and devoid of the balance of the feminine. True power, the kind that empowers women to be impactful and authentic, requires a conscious decision that many are reluctant to make.
The Shadow of the Feminine
Many women struggle with the shadow of the feminine, where they say one thing but fail to follow through. This inconsistency often stems from the dominance of their inner little girl, who seeks to avoid responsibility and hard work. They long for openness, freedom, and power but are paralysed by the fear of change and the comfort of the status quo.
The Paradox of Self-Sourcing
While self-sourcing is essential, it's important to understand that true self-sourcing requires support, guidance, and accountability. You can't unlock your inner power, pleasure and sensuality all on your own. These qualities already exist within you, but they may remain inaccessible without external assistance. Women understand the power of accountability in making significant changes in their lives.
Meeting Desires and Needs
Desires are not frivolous; they are an essential part of who you are. Neglecting your desires can leave you feeling perpetually hungry, like a hungry ghost. Your desires are not less valid than your needs, they are one of the ways to fulfil those needs. Pleasure and sensuality are vital tools for experiencing the life you want.
The Choice to Be Different
To experience more and tap into your inner power and pleasure, you must be willing to do things differently. This often involves leaving behind the old patterns of martyrdom, self-sacrifice, and people-pleasing. Pleasure and martyrdom cannot coexist; you must choose one over the other.
Power, Pleasure, and Permission
Being a powerful, impactful woman means making a choice and embodying it fully. It's not just about talking the talk; it's about being the embodiment of power, pleasure, and permission. Your little girl should not be running the show in your life, whether it's in the bedroom, your career, or anywhere in between.
Facing Loss to Gain More
Choosing your power and pleasure is not an easy decision, and it comes with risks. Not everyone will support or understand your choice. Some people may leave your life, but in their place, you can gain deeper connections and intimacy that were not possible when you were trapped in your little girl persona. Embracing loss can lead to exponential gains.
The Role of Fear
Fear is a formidable force that can hold you back from choosing power and pleasure. It can make you hesitant to take risks or deviate from the familiar path. Trust does not require everything to be perfectly lined up, it's about having the courage to make a different choice.
The Crux of Choosing Pleasure
Choosing pleasure means being prepared to lose people, prospects, and opportunities. It's about recognising that not everyone will come along on your journey when you decide to prioritise yourself over others' expectations. The question is, are you willing to experience some losses to gain exponentially?
Your Little Girl and Your Authentic Self
Your little girl should not be in charge of your life decisions. She embodies imagination, play, and exploration, not power and pleasure. To experience what you admire in other women, you must make a different choice and claim it for yourself.
Then you can experience what it is that you want. Then you can have the connections and the intimacy in your life that you say that you're available for. I'm talking about deep, deep connections and intimacy that requires no palatability.
No people pleasing.
No placating.
No niceties. Nice is a mask. Nice is a mask you would have heard me say that before. No playing pretend essentially. You are being you. You are being you and not everyone is available for this. Are you available for this? Are you available for deep power that comes by way of you knowing your pleasure? (What I call your White Hot Pleasure).
We are talking about what your martyr mode doesn't want you to have.
We are talking about your martyr mode that says you have to work hard.
You have to work. Work your hands to the bone.
You have to prove yourself to be able to afford it.
It must be saved until you've done this thing until you've done this thing until you've done this thing. Always the pleasure last is a last thing to come. Because you have to prove that you're worthy of it.
Do you want that to be your life?
Do you want that to be the words the narrative the script that runs your life?
I work hard. I proved myself I'm not I'm not worthy of pleasure until I've shown and demonstrated I've done all these things. No, I'm fine. Don't worry about me. I don't need that. Fine, I'm okay. I can do it myself.
It becomes incredibly limiting.
If you're sitting here thinking I want to be open I want to be expressed. I want to reveal myself. I just want to feel free in my body and in my existence. You cannot keep choosing the martyr you cannot keep choosing the fear that drives it.
Introducing White Hot Pleasure: An Empowering Experience
To help you on your journey of choosing pleasure, the White Hot Pleasure On-Demand Experience is now available to you. It consists of two parts: the Pleasure Incubator and the Eros Incubator. The Pleasure Incubator guides you in integrating pleasure into your body, work, and daily life, while the Eros Incubator focuses on sensuality and the unbridled experience of your sexuality.
Choosing pleasure is a transformative decision that empowers you to embrace your womanhood, prioritise your power, and break free from the constraints of people pleasing and self-sacrifice. It's a choice that may lead to loss but also opens the door to exponential gains in your life. Pleasure is the portal to power, and it's already inside you, waiting to be unlocked.
The White Hot Pleasure On-Demand Experience offers a practical and accessible way to embark on this journey and experience the deep power and pleasure that are your birthright. It's time to make a different choice and claim the life you desire.
Lauren xo