How to want to have sex when you're a successful woman
She’d say to me: "I want to want sex"…But what if the desire never left?
One of the most common things women have admitted to me over the last 12 years is:
“I want to want sex.”
Not I want sex.
Not I crave intimacy.
But I want to want it.
It’s a quiet confession wrapped in frustration and confusion.
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Because these women weren’t in sexless relationships. They loved their partners. They wanted to want them.
But the truth they couldn’t shake?
The pull toward intimacy felt distant – sometimes faint, sometimes fleeting, sometimes missing altogether.
Competing responsibilities making their desire harder to access than it used to be.
So they’d try to fix it the way they fix everything else – by working harder.
Pouring even more energy into their businesses.
Refining their strategies.
Moving the goalpost and chasing the next level of success – telling themselves that once they got there, then desire would return.
And when that doesn’t work?
They schedule date nights. Try new techniques. Buy pleasure objects.
But none of it makes a difference.
Because the problem was never their desire.
It was the way they’d been conditioned to sacrifice their own pleasure – for success, for stability, for keeping everything running smoothly.
They’ve spent years building businesses and leading teams – always being the reliable, dependable ones who held it all together.
Until intimacy becomes another thing to hold.
Another place where they felt pressure instead of pleasure.
Because when you're always the one leading, controlling, and deciding...
It's almost impossible to just let go.
And just like my clients for the last 12 years…
…Your desire isn’t lost. It never was. It never left.
The moment you realise your desire is the very energy doing the holding, the gripping and the controlling…
And you release it from that responsibility…
You start surging.
That’s when the spark returns.
That’s when your body remembers.
That’s when you stop wanting to want and start feeling it again.
And that shift? It doesn’t just change your relationship.
It cracks open everything.
Because the way you open to intimacy is the way you open to more in business.
It’s never been about trying harder.
It’s always been about powerfully letting go.
And when you finally do?
Everything you want floods in.
This is the transformation that awaits you in my one-month intensive The Surge – where the deep fire within you ignites the next level of wealth, power and pleasure in business.
